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Founder Mary Lou Decossaux Honored August 10th- Reception at NRC Followed
The City of Richmond has honored eight East End residents with commemorative street signs. Our founder is among them! A sign was installed at the corner of Williamsburg Road and Salem Street (NRC Corner) on Friday, August 10th at 11:00AM. (A matching sign goes at the corner of Salem Street and Nelson Street.)
A reception was held at the Neighborhood Resource Center at 1519 Williamsburg Road / 11:30AM-12:45PM
Mary Lou Decossaux’s Passion for Positive Change
“What are you doing Saturday?”
It was a dangerous question, coming from Mary Lou Decossaux.
“Nothing,” Penny Ferris bravely replied.
“Well, we need a door right there,” Decossaux said. With her finger, she drew a door on one of the walls of the Neighborhood Resource Center, which she founded in the fiercely independent but economically limping neighborhood of Fulton in the East End.
The wall was solid cinder block. Decossaux didn’t care. That Saturday, Ferris found herself with a drill in her hand. Others pitched in to help. And the door was opened.
Through the years, Decossaux kept drawing things with her finger, says Ferris, who is programs director at the center: another door, a community kitchen, a green living wall. “And now it exists.”
Decossaux died at her home on Dec. 27. She was 54.
This is what you need to know about Decossaux: When she said something was going to happen, it happened.
When she said the city ought to pay its workers enough to make a decent living, it did. Decossaux coordinated the Coalition for a Living Wage, a group that in 2001 successfully lobbied City Council to raise the wages for all city employees from the $5.15 minimum wage to $8.70.
When she said an old post office on Williamsburg Road was going to become a community center, it did. Decossaux long saw the need for a place for Fulton residents to gather. After two years of fundraising, the Neighborhood Resource Center opened in January 2005.
Around the same time, Decossaux was diagnosed with breast cancer. Last year she learned it had spread.
But she wasn’t finished working. Not yet. When Decossaux came home to her beloved Fulton in May, she had one last project she wanted to complete.
She asked neighbor Juliellen Sarver if she would help her go through some old papers that had belonged to a French ancestor. Sarver, who is fluent in French, quickly learned that these were no ordinary mementos. The rat-nibbled diaries, hand-written sheet music, photographs of bears and decades of letters told the remarkable story of Joseph Founau, the cousin of Decossaux’s grandfather.
Shortly before World War I, Founau had left his ancestral village in the Pyrenees mountains to find his fortune. He traveled through the Americas, from Argentina to Florida to New York City, working in restaurants and, once, traveling with a performance troupe of men and dancing bears.
While in New York, Founau discovered the YMCA. Fascinated by the organization’s novel approach to promoting fitness, nutrition and good health, he later returned to the village of Arrous and founded a sporting club for youth. It still exists.
The story of how Decossaux discovered Founau’s legacy is even more extraordinary. She’d never been to France until her college basketball team traveled to Europe for a competition. At the end of the trip, while a bus carried the players to the airport in Geneva, Sarver tells it: “Mary Lou, in typical Mary-Lou fashion even back then, said, ‘This is my only chance to see where my mother comes from.'”
She jumped off the bus. She spoke no French. She had $100, a bag of walnuts and a nutcracker. Somehow, Decossaux hitchhiked hundreds of miles to Toulouse and showed up at her aunt’s house. While staying there, Decossaux found Founau’s papers in the attic. She remained in France for six years, and in 1995 she published a book about her ancestor in French. The title translates to “Sapou: Peddler from the Ariège in the Time of the Dancing Bears.”
Decades later, Founau’s sporting club inspired Decossaux to lead the charge for Fulton’s community center. “These diaries, I guess they really just enchanted her,” Sarver says.
The enchantment never faded. Decossaux’s last act was cataloguing the papers so they could be sent to a government archive in France for safekeeping. Sarver came to Decossaux’s house and read each piece; Decossaux then indicated to which stack it belonged.
“It really seemed to energize her, even though she was getting more and more ill,” Sarver says. Yet the work wasn’t easy for Decossaux. She was weak, Sarver says, and she knew that she didn’t have much longer to live. In September the documents were sent to the archive.
Even then, Decossaux didn’t rest. She enlisted the help of friend Joel Cabot to find a French publisher to reprint a new version of her book. She also wanted to translate the manuscript into English, a task she’d begun years ago but never completed to her satisfaction.
There wasn’t time. Decossaux’s last good day was Christmas Eve, when friends gathered at her house in Fulton. Longtime friend and neighbor Rebecca Fralin wanted Decossaux to hear a letter she’d written on behalf of all who knew her: “And with your words, your noble goals and your brilliant intellect, you have always known how to make incredible change happen.”
Hearing the words, holding her friend’s hand, Decossaux smiled. She said, “I think this is the best Christmas Eve I’ve ever had.”